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Bring on the anal phase! | Watching the Wheels

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Bring on the anal phase! November 15, 2016. November 15, 2016. November 15, 2016. What goes in must come out. That’s the mantra for the transition from the oral phase to to the anal phase. Sigmund Freud may have gotten some bits of our psychological development wrong, but, at least in Western culture, potty training is a watershed moment. (Are desert nomad toddlers potty trained? I don’t know.) Suddenly, poop becomes the most important word in the entire language! Vote for my best interests! Cozy is star...

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Ode to a Gay Bar | Watching the Wheels

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Ode to a Gay Bar. June 15, 2016. June 16, 2016. June 15, 2016. I could talk all day about the shooter and the reactions from the bitterly gun-obsessed, Islam-hating right-wing narrative inventors. But I want to talk about the crime scene. More specifically, the importance of the gay bar in America. Omar Mateen did the same thing. In the early 1980s, that was mainly Backstreet. But it was in those clubs that a movement from the fringe to the mainstream was born. Like at Stonewall in 1968 and Pulse in ...

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CCMK (music) | Watching the Wheels

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COZY’S COLLEGE OF MUSICAL KNOWLEDGE. I thought I’d keep track of the music that I play while taking care of my daughter. Hopefully my tastes will seep into her sponge brain. This is the Mr. Mom playlist, day by day. Music for changing diapers, washing dishes, making bread, and dancing with Cozy. Joni Mitchell –. The Three Dog Night –. See How We Are. Elvis Costello –. The New Pornographers –. Candi Stanton –. Thom Yorke –. Tomorrow’s Modern Boxes. Aretha Franklin –. Sings the Great Diva Classics. The Pol...

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18 thoughts for Cozy’s 18-month birthday | Watching the Wheels

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18 thoughts for Cozy’s 18-month birthday. February 17, 2016. February 17, 2016. February 17, 2016. How did we end up with a child who is a year and a half old? Let me quickly jot down these thoughts. One does not simply just leave the house with a toddler. Whoever invented the packaging for cheese sticks needs a very long Time Out. Only here am I allowed to ask, Can I smell your butt? If the kid eats food off the floor, she doubles as a pet. So what if her two favorite words are Dada and cracker? This ba...

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Feministing in Havana | Watching the Wheels

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August 14, 2016. August 28, 2016. So we’ll see if Brother Raul lets that happen to his island. I have feeling it’ll look a lot different next time we go back. We stayed in a wonderful casa in the center of the city that might be a Quality Inn this time next year. So it must be a great place to be a woman, right? Cuba is an incredibly diverse place, from dark Afro-Caribbean to Europeans (and probably some Hemingway descendants). Andrea, who would be punishingly sexy in a medieval suit of armor, notice...

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Here’s Why Saying “All Lives Matter” Makes You Sound Racist | Watching the Wheels

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Here’s Why Saying All Lives Matter Makes You Sound Racist. July 12, 2016. July 12, 2016. July 12, 2016. Let me get this out of the way first – Rudolph Giuliani is a first class idiot. If you are white, I’m going to ask you to turn off your defense mechanisms and think about the value of empathy. Please, just try. This has been a rough week in America’s tortured history of race relations. Two years after Ferguson ( one of the first things I wrote about in this blog. The Point of BLM. The point of Black li...

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My Little New York Patti Smith Dream | Watching the Wheels

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My Little New York Patti Smith Dream. January 10, 2016. December 31, 2016. January 9, 2016. I’m sitting in a bar on West 72nd Street in Manhattan. This is John Lennon’s block. John Lennon, the househusband and patron saint of this blog. The dirty, nasty world of CBGB’s on the Bowery is where I wanted to be, not in my Ted Nugent-loving southern suburbia, draped in pink and blue Laura Ashley curtains. At age 14, I got the Easter. When Gilda Radner did her Candy Slice. Album She’s reading from Ginsberg’s Ho...

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How David Bowie Bent My Gender | Watching the Wheels

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How David Bowie Bent My Gender. January 12, 2016. January 24, 2016. January 11, 2016. I awoke this morning to a message from my friend Roy in England that just said, Sad day for music. A sense of dread swelled up. I know that I am likely to witness the passing of Bob Dylan, Joni Mitchell, and Patti Smith. What will the world be like without them? But not with Bowie. He is gone so unexpectedly. I was in New York City all weekend and was waiting for today to get Blackstar. Each half inch it grew, you’d get...

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The Kid’s First Trip to the ER: Anatomy of a Panic | Watching the Wheels

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The Kid’s First Trip to the ER: Anatomy of a Panic. January 4, 2016. January 4, 2016. January 4, 2016. You probably figured I’d be writing about the militia standoff in Burns, Oregon. Today Well, some things are more important than domestic terrorists trying to bring down the U.S. government one federally owned gift-shop at a time. Cozy had to go to the hospital last night! Is worth taking over a federal building for.) I had just placed the order when my phone rang and it was Andrea in a panic. Cozy seem...

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Cinco de Mayo guest essay: A Conversation with the Serpent | Watching the Wheels

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Cinco de Mayo guest essay: A Conversation with the Serpent. May 5, 2016. May 6, 2016. May 5, 2016. With the current hostility towards Latinos and “illegal aliens”. Drummed up by the presumed Republican nominee for president, Donald “Bigly” Trump, I thought I’d hand over my blog to my wife, Andrea. She is one of the people the Trump thugs will be looking for, so her voice is much more powerful than mine on this topic. Uno, dos. This. Oppression, cactus, esqueletos. You never needed nada. Nothing from no o...