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Chapter 14 | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. This tool is God-centered and God-given:. This is an awe-inspiring power. Where there is life, there is hope. How did I respond to the memories evoked? I endeavored to sever hope from my life. All I could think was: What’s the point? If I hadn’t been trying to play at being optimistic, I would have had better memories of that heartbreaking day. I watched my dreams fade by virtue of the simple passage of time and a total la...
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Chapter 9 | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. As an abuse victim, I was taught from an early age everything was my fault. Everything. Pretty amazing to give so much power to a child. Isn’t it? And it’s a big, fat lie. I had lived with so many lies for so long, I struggled with distinguishing truth from lies. I became so good at lying I developed my own little mantra, Everything’s true, from a certain point of view. The question begs to be asked, Why do people lie?
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The Cookie Jar… | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. The Cookie Jar…. A chain breaker understands they need help out of the cookie jar and actively seek it. Years ago, my sister and I discovered a card at DaySpring. Unfortunately, it was an ecard and, as far as I know, no longer exists, except in our memories. We refer to it often, to this day. Frame One: A lovely, sunny kitchen, with a cookie jar on the counter. The truth will set you free. The freedom came with a price....
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Chapter 5 | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. I Am The Project. Say it to yourself: I am the project. An artist/expert/master is someone who creates, possesses a special skill or knowledge, excels in a specific area. It’s time to become the master/expert/artist of your own life, of you. You thought you left homework behind, I’m sure — or maybe you’re in school right now and you’re thinking, Not more homework! This is something you are doing for yourself, and you are w...
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Chapter 12 | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. Now is a good time to touch on perhaps an unexpected tool in your toolkit:. Do you have a collection of things that make you laugh? Do you even know what makes you laugh? This is an indispensable tool, but one that must be used with care. Yes, you have to practice your humor. When I started counseling, my first counselor informed me that I had a nervous laugh. Really? That being said, being able to laugh at yourself is ess...
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Quotes | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. Quick bits of inspiration. 8220;Fear keeps you from doing something stupid; faith keeps you from stupidly doing nothing.” Judy. If your dreams don’t scare you, they’re not big enough. Unknown. Writing is like giving yourself homework, really hard homework, every day, for the rest of your life. You want glamorous? Throw glitter at the computer screen. Katrina Monroe. 8220;Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds co...
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Chapter 7 | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. Another early lesson every victim is taught is: There is no choice. This may be true for a child, but as an adult, if you keep telling yourself that, then you’re buying into your abusers’ lies. The only way to break the chain of abuse is to learn and use the next tool:. THE RIGHT TO CHOOSE. I know it’s difficult to make choices when the lessons you learned were contradictory and arbitrary. I remember seeking advice, wh...
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Chapter 3 | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. You have to start somewhere. There is so much to learn and understand, but where to start? I’m all too familiar with the frustration of having others believe they have the right to tell me that there are others worse off than I am. I know. I think of the sex slaves all over the world, innocent children brutalized and starving all over the world. Knowing all that, I still didn’t know where to start. It sounded so easy, so I...
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Chapter 4 | The Project: Me by Judy
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The Project: Me by Judy. The Tools I Wish I'd Known About Sooner. The Cookie Jar…. When I wrote this chapter, I was looking for a specific quote with which to start it. Though I checked several sources and found the quote, not one source gave an actual reference. There was a time when I would have shrugged, and decided it wasn’t worth the effort. We come into this world with. We are born into this world with spirits that are uniquely our own, into families and situations that will influence and shape us&...
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