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Living Stones: 'Mother' The Good the Bad and the Ugly
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Wednesday, May 14, 2014. Mother' The Good the Bad and the Ugly. In my years of being an adoptive parent I have been called many things some worse than others. 'Scabby minx' 'Stupid mammy' and 'Idiot' to name a few. Sometimes these names and the rages that bring the words forth can set my brain in to telling me 'This is not personal, she needs love right now, wait, 'stay calm, when she stops being angry it will all be ok again.'. Yesterday was one of those days. Well she went from 0 to 10 in total rage...
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Living Stones: Endings
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Friday, March 27, 2015. If someone could have told me how the last 8 years would have turned out I would not have believed it. Our adoption journey wasn't an easy one. Becoming the parents of our foster children was the biggest battle we ever endured. Birth mum was adamantly against us adopting her children (and who can blame her) she fought and fought and the judge kept on adjourning time and time again. We were very traumatised by this and so were Flossie and Lottie as the introductions began. Now this...
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Living Stones: February 2014
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Wednesday, February 19, 2014. Constant change is here to stay. We have been through some turbulent times in our nearly 17 years of marriage mostly all children related in one way or another. I must confess I am still in a state of shock since the last little episode we were forced to endure. Thanks to my psychotherapy training I have understood the barrage of emotions I have and am feeling right now. I never knew the depth of pain I would feel inside as all this began to happen. Flossy has worried that s...
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Living Stones: Constant change is here to stay
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Wednesday, February 19, 2014. Constant change is here to stay. We have been through some turbulent times in our nearly 17 years of marriage mostly all children related in one way or another. I must confess I am still in a state of shock since the last little episode we were forced to endure. Thanks to my psychotherapy training I have understood the barrage of emotions I have and am feeling right now. I never knew the depth of pain I would feel inside as all this began to happen. Flossy has worried that s...
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Living Stones: January 2015
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Friday, January 9, 2015. Here we are 2015. This time last year we were going through such pain as Gracie had just left us. She remains happy in her foster placement. For me I struggle so much seeing her have another mother, her foster carer. I don't want Gracie to be unhappy but I watch from the sidelines and so often feel guilt and pain of all the things I must have done wrong. Her foster carer cares for her I can see that but I can only feel pain still at the loss of our daughter. I don't blame her and...
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Living Stones: A litle bit of me
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Tuesday, June 11, 2013. A litle bit of me. If I could have one wish it would be to see the pathways of our brains being restored to how they should be. Having suffered neglect at an early age as well as growing up being really afraid of being alone I have had to fight with who I am and why I do the things I do at times due to the pathways of my brain being damaged from birth. I clung to people I felt safe with and became a bit of a stalker at times. God works all things for good. I met you at Greenbelt o...
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Living Stones: October 2012
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Sunday, October 7, 2012. Subscribe to: Posts (Atom). The misadventures of an adoptive dad. Help me why is it so? Life, Art and Work. Get back to it and ask those questions. Married to Al with 6 wonderful children; Ann our adopted sister plus many pets. View my complete profile. There was an error in this gadget. Picture Window template. Powered by Blogger.
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Living Stones
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Sunday, September 8, 2013. 6 Weeks and counting. We made it. Once again the extra long summer break is over and we are still standing. As usual the ups and downs have been frequent sad to say often more down's than up's at times as Flossy and Lotty learn to live with their new baby sister realising she has come with her own independence not afraid of showing it. So much changed for us this summer of course the first being a new addition to our already large brood. In comes Pauline and Adrian Hawkes here ...
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Living Stones: 'It's all your fault'
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Wednesday, December 4, 2013. It's all your fault'. Over the years of attending adoption conferences, purchasing and reading many books I have learned from many authors, psychotherapists and conference trainers that it's quite likely your adopted child will blame you for all the things they suffered from their birth parents. Sometimes those things can be the usual " I HAVE LOST MY SCHOOL BAG, YOU MUST HAVE MOVED IT AND IT IS ALL YOUR FAULT"! Little did I know that something was going to happen to us last ...
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